Valentine’s Day is around the corner so if you’re attached, that means you’re already making dinner reservations and picking out some dainty lingerie — but if you’re single, you may wish you could fast-forward to the 15th. Unfortunately, there are a lot of negative social stigmas against single folks, which in turn can make it all too easy to feel sorry for yourself if you’re not in a relationship. It’s important to keep in mind that being attached isn’t everything, especially if the union is forced or unhealthy. Here are a few things to keep in mind so you can keep your head up when February 14 rolls around.
Love is all about timing
While there are important factors that go into a relationship such as having the same moral compass, supporting one another’s goals and dreams, mutual attraction, and sexual chemistry, these building blocks mean nothing if the timing of the relationship is off. Thanks to splashy Hollywood movies, we are conditioned to believe that if all the boxes on the list are checked off, we’ve found “the one” for life. But if one (or both) of you aren’t emotionally available at the moment, has a job that equates to being a perpetual road warrior, or is going through a serious personal issue like an addiction, it’s likely that your connection will be put to the test. This is not to say that couples can’t get through rough patches together (especially over time), but if the relationship is starting out on rocky ground from the get-go, perhaps the timing is not right
Trust that the universe has plans for you
Trusting what the universe has in store for you is easier said than done, but it’s definitely a practice worth adhering to. It’s particularly helpful in times of need when you feel like all of your efforts aren’t paying off. However, keep in mind that trusting the universe isn’t about hoping to be saved. It’s really about facing your fears head-on and identifying what areas or beliefs in your life that you need to let go. The best way to trust the universe is to trust yourself, so just be patient. Know that the universe is there to serve you, even if you don’t always get what you want — but that could be better for you In the long run. Do you believe in love across the universe?
You have control over your love life
Turning into a hermit crab isn’t going to help your love life. Remember that like attracts like, so you’ll only get back what you put out into the universe. Don’t let personal grooming and hygiene habits go to the wayside, stay active by engaging in activities that bring you pleasure, and maintain relationships with friends and loved ones — you never know where those partnerships could lead!
Assess why you want to be in a relationship
Take a moment to think about why you want to be in a relationship in the first place. Is it because you’re lonely or afraid of being alone? Are you trying to fill some sort of void? Do you merely want someone to take care of you or help you feel better about yourself? These are all unhealthy reasons to want to be attached, so it’s likely that you need to work on loving yourself before loving someone else.
Single people are more social
Guess what? Research suggests that single people (especially those who have been on their own for a substantial amount of time) are actually more social and have larger social networks than their married peers. Furthermore, many single individuals are completely satisfied with the idea of never even getting married. Even if you still would like to be in a relationship, find comfort in knowing that other singles are living a content life without one.
Celebrate self-love
Self-care and self-love are important year-round, but why not give yourself a little extra TLC this Valentine’s Day. Have an at-home spa day, take time to partake in a hobby that you’ve put to the wayside, make a list of accomplishments and goals to help improve upon the relationship you have with yourself. Above all, be kind to yourself and understand that it’s completely acceptable to be swinging single and without a Valentine’s Day love.
Speak to a Psychic Love Advisor
Relationship advice is one of the most popular reasons why people consult a psychic—and with good reason. A psychic love reading can help give you lucidity regarding relationships, to include why you’re having problems finding (or keeping) love in the first place so that you can effectively attract a lover or soulmate. You may also be seeking advice on how to move on after a divorce or infidelity. A tarot card reading can reveal whether or not a major life change or new relationship is in the works.
